Tag Archives: pregnant

13 Things no one ever told you about having a baby.

C: so you are super preggo and everyone in the world wants to tell you horror stories about how horrendous childbirth is (it isn’t, I can happily write you a nice post all about it if you fancy) but what about all the other things that no one thinks to tell you? Trust me, theres plenty.

1.Goodbye Dignity.
I used to be quite private, you know lady garden viewings for boyfriend in the dark only and all. After 11 hours of labour I literally couldn’t give a shit. I had a midwife in there, a trainee midwife and a trainee doctor all having a cheeky look. If you are worried you will care? You won’t. All you want is the baby out.

2. That initial baby bond?

This is possibly going to be a controversial one. Don’t bother spamming me with hate comments, I am putting this in incase anyone else felt the same and felt guilty about it. So I gave birth and they put a baby on me. I remember staring at her like DID THAT JUST COME OUT OF MY BODY?! Then she pooed on me and I went to surgery for two hours without her (possibly the reason behind the delayed bonding experience) and I thought, yeah nice baby. Liked her about as much as I would if a family member had a baby, then by about three weeks later I would have pushed L in front of a bus if it meant she was okay… and L used to be my fav (don’t tell him he’s not now, he gets funny about it). I have done some research (well, asked people who also had babies) and this seems to be quite common. So if this is you don’t feel guilty about it, give it time and talk to your midwife about it

3. Breastfeeding sucks.

Literally. For something that is meant to be natural it is quite possibly the hardest thing I have ever tried to do. After 3 days I had to give up and bottle feed as my milk didn’t come in and baba was jaundiced and dehydrated. It took 3 weeks for the scabs to disappear.

4. The first night at home will be the worst night of your life.

You are super excited to leave hospital (the food really is bad, I recommend taking ketchup to disguise all food) and you think life will be perfect at home with your new family… THEN YOUR BABY TURNS INTO THE DEVIL. She is no longer tired from the labour, all noises are different from the hospital and she screams the whole night and makes you think you will be a terrible parent and you should probably return her to someone who knows what they are doing. I told my midwife and she laughed and said “first nights at home should come with a health warning” so here you have your warning. Expect the worst and then the next morning you will have your perfect beautiful baba back.

5. Everyone in the world comes to visit and you hate them.

Literally everyone and their wife wants to come visit, squeeze your baby, drink your tea and eat your biscuits that you stole from the hospital. You go from loving everyone telling you how pretty your baby is to wanting to stab them in the face until they leave. Perfectly normal but try and refrain from the stabbing, babies aren’t allowed in prisons.

6. You will cry all the live long day.

You will cry cos your baby’s daddy is being nice to you, at the sad dog advert on the telly, or cos someone offered you a crisp (they were even my own crisps but ya know, such a nice gesture). You will even start crying about how much you have been crying. Don’t worry it all stops after a couple of weeks and you can go back to your normal sassy self.

7. You learn who your real friends are.

The shit ones are the ones that are super excited at the start, want you to text them when you are in labour, come visit all the time the first few weeks (when you don’t actually want visitors) and then send you weird messages about how they miss you and you never get to see them anymore. Not that you are busy with a baby or anything. Ditch the bitches and stick with the ones that bring you food and lol at your weird baby photos and come make your hair look nice for you.

8. Google becomes your best friend and your worst enemy.

You find yourself googling things like “will my baby die from not burping” and endlessly searching for photos of “normal” baby poo. As useful as the internet can be when you actually need to know something, calm down the googling. No babies ever died of not burping.

9. Baby poo will take over your life.

You will become obsessed. Why hasn’t my baby pooed? Is she pooing too much? Is that shit I can smell? I must stop wearing this jumper, its the same colour as baby poo. I will never eat a korma again, all things like that. You will also spend a large amount of your life sniffing your babies bum, don’t worry though, babies only poo when you are ready to go out so you might as well just check then.

10. Labour pains? What about aftershock pains?

Maybe its inappropriate to compare labour to an earthquake, maybe it isn’t. What I do know is that no one warned me about the pains you have afterwards. Literally feels like being beaten up with a cricket bat. Not that I’ve ever played cricket or been hit with a bat but you know, thats how I imagine it feels like. Take lots of baths whilst your partner is off work, have paracetamol and make people do the washing up and stuff for you so you can rest with baba. Don’t try and take the dog for a walk cos thats just stupid and makes it worse.

11. Having a baby is pretty lonely.

Everyone wants to come and visit you the first few weeks, then slowly it stops and your partner goes back to work. Suddenly you are left at home on your own with your beautiful baby and when you finally would like visitors they aren’t interested. Go out. Go visit friends who have children, go annoy your parents/parents in law. Don’t sit at home drinking too much coffee and thinking about how you still look preggo and maybe theres actually another baby in there (there isn’t, it will go by about 10/12 weeks).

12. Health Visitors come and see you and ask weird questions.

“do you think you are depressed?” “Would you say you cry more than 7 times a day?” “Does your partner beat you up” “any history of drug or alcohol abuse?”… don’t answer that one with “I think she’s a bit young for that, she’s only 4 weeks old” Cos they don’t find it funny. In my experience health visitors ask their weird questions and then answer yours with strange things about how every baby is different and give no real advice. Answer them without the jokes (I am probably on some weird bad mother alert list now) and then ask your mother or doctor if your health visitors are useless.

13. Enjoy your tiny baba whilst they are teeny.

I had a baby three months ago and I’m already jealous of other peoples tiny babies. Seriously, suddenly she is massive and I cried and told L she might as well just be 18 and move out now. Maybe dramatic, maybe not. But in all seriousness enjoy those tiny baby cuddles and don’t wish them away cos by the time they are 3 months old they hate being cuddled and just ignore you whilst you try and play with them because they want to watch tv and eat their own feet.

so there we have it, 13 things no one ever tells you about having a baby! Has anyone else had similar experiences? Or do you have something you want to add to the list?! Let me know! #twolittleowls

Advertisements

Baby Diaries: The Ultimate Baby Shower Gift!

C: Now I am still not entirely convinced about baby showers… it is definitely a very American thing to me (although when it comes to Halloween and Christmas they have got the art of celebrating down!) and I didn’t really want one! However, the sister in law can only minority be tamed, so I had a baby shower/afternoon tea on my birthday and it was actually lovely! I didn’t want people to feel like they had to bring a gift, so I made sure that was specified on the invites, but one of the gifts I received I thought deserved a special mention on the blog – the Neals Yard Mother and Baby Organic Collection which is £45 and available here.

IMG_0186

First of all the packaging is absolutely beautiful, and I loved that it is a gift for mums to be as well as babies – its nice to get some pampering in before baby arrives as apparently I won’t have much time for that once my bundle of joy (poo and nappies) is here!

IMG_0187

Obviously I haven’t tried any of the baby products yet, but I shall make sure to update this post once baba has given her verdict on them (She’s still too young to be trying them)! However, the Mothers Bath Oil is by far my favourite product! It smells so lovely and relaxing, and really helps to calm down both me and my troublesome skin! Im not particularly keen on the Massage Oil just because I personally don’t like using oils/I keep dropping it and making a mess and L moans about the slippery bathroom! But the flannel is lovely quality and I enjoyed using the Mothers Balm on those pesky stretch mark areas – it stopped my skin getting itchy and kept it supple and moisturised!

This is literally the perfect gift for any mum to be! It is beautiful and functional, and the bonus is that it is all organic too where possible! I know a lot of pregnant ladies are super concerned about only using organic products on their body as obviously what your body absorbs is potentially finding its way to the little one, so this is perfect! Personally I have still been using what works for me as my skin is too sensitive to be swapping products around, but this is still perfect when you are unsure on what to buy someone for their baby shower – everyone buys baby clothes etc so its lovely to get something different!

What do you guys think of this from Neals Yard? I haven’t tried many of their products before, but I shall definitely be popping in to my local store to see what goodies they have! #twolittleowls

Our Summer Goals!

A & C: this summer we both have quite different goals/what we want to achieve, but its nice to have some plans on what we want to do over the summer months so thought we would share ours with you!

C: Obviously, if you are a regular reader of this blog you would know that I am pretty preggo now as I am due in September, so I am now on maternity leave – wahooo! So here is my list of things I want to do before my life is taken over by babies, feeds and dirty nappies!

1. Baking/Cooking! I never get time anymore to bake or spend an afternoon making a really nice meal. I am sure I won’t feel up to this all the time, but I can’t wait to actually have some spare time to make a nice cake or even make some jam/chutneys (which I love making!)

2. Read! No one ever has time for reading properly do they? I am hoping to make the most of the lovely summer weather (which probably will last about another week at the most realistically) and sit outside whilst I relax with some good books – recommendations welcome please!

3. Go to the beach! I love the beach, I don’t go in the water as I am pretty convinced I will die in a freak shark attack… but I love it all the same. Fish and chips, 2p machines, dinky doughnuts and walks in the sunshine? Yes please! I am determined to go this year before I get too tired out!

4. Take photos in the sunshine of some preggo OOTD’s! I am really disappointed in myself for not doing any of these yet. I would love to be able to look at other preggo styles/get some ideas on what to wear so I definitely need to do a few of these whilst the weather is perfect for photos! In fact I might get Annie to help me this weekend!

5. Finish unpacking my spare bedroom and therefore have space to do some crafts! I want to make some cushions for the nursery and some bunting – another project that Annie will have to help me with! Will definitely do some how-to posts on these badboys if I persuade her to help me!

A: I have a love/hate relationship with Summer, I love the warm evenings and days spent in the garden – but the super hot days just aren’t for me, so here are my plans/tips for staying cool!

1. Watch the sunsets. I’m well aware that this sounds soppy and ridiculous but we live in a part of the UK that’s incredibly flat which means the sunsets are epic. And our garden allows for amazing views because we are surrounded by fields. I love to end a hectic day sat down the bottom of our garden with a book, a cat and maybe (probably) a glass of wine. It’s super peaceful and so good for relaxing!

2. Slip and slides! Quite often on a weekend we end up with our niece and nephew playing in the garden, and after a full on couple of hours running around like crazies in the sun, what better way is there to cool down than a slip and slide?!

3. Wear orange lipstick! It’s one of my favourite colours to wear but it is pretty daring, especially with orange hair! But I love the way it looks so I need to push myself.

4. Go for walks. I really need to do this one, I’ve been eating healthily and being really good but I think going for some walks will make me feel even better. But I love being at home far too much and never want to leave the house!

5. Go camping. Another problem caused by not wanting to leave the house! We have a beautiful old campervan called Jeremy which we’ve used a couple of times this year, but we definitely need to have a few more long weekends away before it gets too chilly!

6. Last one I promise, but it’s an important one – make jam! One of my favourite things to do in the summer and if I’m lucky it lasts into the winter too! Will be posting recipes as soon as I make some!

What are your plans this summer? Let us know if you have any recommendations! #twolittleowls

A Pregnancy Update: What To Expect in Your Second Trimester

C: I don’t want to bore all you beauty lovers with too many pregnancy posts, but as promised here is my second trimester update post! I talked about the experiences I had in my first trimester here if you fancy a look too!

1. This trimester is a couple of weeks longer but 100 times easier! Goodbye morning sickness! I shall not be missing you!

2. Saying that, everyone tells you how you will be less tired in your second trimester… don’t believe them, they are liars! You will continue to want 12 hours sleep a night and still need a nap by mid-day. Make the most of it and do it!

3. You will start showing. Which is super exciting, because the whole of the first trimester you can see it but no one else can, suddenly (as if by magic/overnight) you are full on preggo and every one can tell!

4. You spent your first trimester wishing you had a preggo bump to show off, now you finally have one and its a love hate relationship. You go from lovingly stroking it and making your partner look at it every ten minutes to throwing a hissy fit because you are fat and none of your clothes fit.

5. None of your normal clothes fit, but all of the maternity clothes you have bought are still way too big. Second trimester/first world problems. Seems like the end of the world at the time.

6. Talking of feeling fat… you will be hungry all the time. Like literally, all the live long day. No matter what you eat you can fit a little bit more in, and can eat three course meals for dinner and tea.

7. Second breakfasts are essential. Third breakfasts are recommended.

8. By the evening you have eaten so much, you sit there feeling stuffed/with heartburn that no Rennie can solve…. but you are still a little peckish and convince yourself that a nice yoghurt will get rid of your heartburn.

9. Talking of nighttime- you start feeling baby move! It is super exciting at first… and then you realise it feels like a fish flapping about and its a bit gross really. Oh your lovely cute little baba decides to wait until you are just falling asleep to start kicking and swirling around and generally keeping you awake. Excellent practice for when baby is here apparently!

10. Everyone starts coming up with theories on why you are having a boy/girl and making predictions! You are too scared too guess incase you get it wrong and people think you would prefer one or the other and think you are a bad mother…

11. You get your second scan! Scan lady can show you vessels in your babies heart that are like 2mm big but still says they aren’t 100% sure on whether it is a boy or girl… you think they might be fibbing.

12. You find out, but even using logic from number 11 and even though you are super excited, you are still scared that they told you its a girl but a boy might come out. So you refuse to buy girl stuff (or vice versa).

13. You accidentally go shopping and buy all the girl stuff.

14. You suddenly realise that you are basically in your third trimester and get super excited/scared because once again time has disappeared!

15. Strangers start thinking it is acceptable to touch your belly. You like it and hate it at the same time. Mainly because you are excited you are pregnant and people can tell you aren’t just fat, but still know strangers touching you is weird.

So there we go… the emotional rollercoaster that is the second trimester! Has anyone else had a similar experience?! #twolittleowls

A Pregnancy Skincare Essential/Holy Grail!

C: I don’t know about other pregnant beauties, but one of my concerns (around myself, not the baby – the babies health is obviously most important!) is having a whole body of stretch marks! I am literally on daily stretch mark alert and make L check too! Poor man. So I did a little research into what exactly causes stretch marks and therefore what skincare products to focus on.

Now clearly stretch marks are caused by your skin stretching… but what makes that worse? Dry skin. Dry skin isn’t as supple, and will not stretch as nicely as lovely hydrated skin. Plus dry skin is super itchy as it stretches and no one wants that. So whilst out baby shopping (buying things in miniature is so much fun) I kept having a little goosey at skincare and eventually picked up this:

photo 2(29)

I got this Derma Mum Superior Moisturising Stretch Mark Cream from Babies are us for about £6. It is a massive 500ml tub which I can see lasting me until the end of my pregnancy – although lets already state that I will be repurchasing this if I run out! It is a thick, white cream that requires a lot of rubbing in but does sink into the skin nicely once warmed up. It doesn’t smell of anything lovely… just slightly like aqueous cream or something similar which can easily be disguised by a little perfume/body spray.

Now just look at the ingredients: Rose Hip, Evening Primrose, Shea and Cocoa Butters. It was seeing the ingredients that decided the purchase for me! All ingredients that are good for your skin and okay to use whilst preggo. Now since using this all of my dry skin has disappeared, I still haven’t got any stretch marks even though baby has decided to go through a sudden growth spurt and that itchy stretched skin feeling has disappeared. Perfect.

So if pregnant, have very dry skin, or you are loosing/gaining weight (which can lead to stretch marks too unfortunately!) I would 100% recommend this! It truly is amazing! I shall add a little update to my post when super preggo to let you all know whether the stretch marks are still banished! #twolittleowls

A Christmas Voucher Haul

C: I have been so busy since Christmas (read: found out pregnant, spent all time at work or asleep) that I hadn’t even spent my Boots Christmas vouchers! This is pretty much unheard of for me, normally I would have spent them on Boxing Day! So whilst in town the other day I needed to pick up some essentials, so thought I would have a little nosey round Boots. Now my local store isn’t very large so there isn’t a lot of choice, but I still managed to find plenty of things to spend my £20 voucher on.

photo 1-23

First up, skincare was 3 for 2 and I chose these badboys to make the most of the offer:

1. Nivea In Shower Moisturiser –  I have seen these around for a while now and they have always intrigued me, but never enough to spend £5 on something that is potentially pointless. Now as this was technically free, it was the perfect time to try it! Plus since being preggo my skin has been super duper dry, so anything that may assist with that is worth a try in my book.

2. S&G Peaches and Clean Cleanser – I have reviewed this previously here, if you want a goosey. This is now the third bottle of this stuff that I have bought which is a long term relationship for me and a face wash! I love it even more than I used too, its perfect for keeping spots and blemishes at bay.

3. Garnier Micellar Cleansing Water – another product that I have heard a lot about, and know that Annie loves. I normally use a cleansing oil/balm to remove my make up, but I have been so tired recently that I decided to get some of this for those evenings that I finish work late and just can’t be bothered!

photo 2-23

Next up, Rimmel is currently 2 for £10! Meaning a huge £5 saving on these:

1. Rimmel Provocalips in 110 Dare to Pink – another product I have had my eye on for a while now. I love Rimmel lipsticks, and these are meant to be super long lasting so I can’t wait to try them out! I decided to go for a pink colour because I am super excited for spring! Let me know if you want a review of this!

2. Rimmel BB Cream in Light – I had the Matte version of this, and due to my currently dry skin and having used it all up I decided to try the normal version. The formula is a lot thicker for this product, so I am not sure if they have actually changed the formula? Anyone know?

So there is what I have been buying recently! I am going shopping with Annie again today, so I shall hopefully have another haul for you guys going up soon! Any of you guys tried these products? #twolittleowls

A Super Duper Exciting Update

C: Hi guys! Just wanted to post a little life update today, just so you are aware of a few changes that might occur over here (from me anyway, Annie will still be ginger). I am super happy and excited to finally announce that L and I are expecting a little peanut in September! Yes you heard it, my eggo is preggo mamma bears (finally… a reason to quote Juno).

Now, as this is the inter web I am not going to be sharing my scan pictures, as we want to keep them private/just for us for a little longer so I do apologise. However, after being convinced I would go for my scan and there would be nothing in there… I can confirm that baby owl is healthy and well!

So there is my gossip for you lovely readers (and the people who have read it on Facey-b for a little nose)! So you can be expecting some slightly different lifestyle posts from me now, as I share with you my pearls of wisdom from this experience (lesson number 1… first 12 weeks are like a permanent hungover hangover, but with none of the wine. Not good), as well as some bumpalicious OOTD’s and wish lists of all the miniature stuff I am lusting after!

P.S. Annie is super excited to be an Auntie!

Thanks for reading, and let me know if you have any tips/recommendations etc! #twolittleowlsblog